I've been told on countless occasions that my aura is extremely stress-free. I just don't give out stressful vibes, nor am I a stressed out person.
At first, I thought, 'Why I am not stressed out? Is it because I just don't care?'
Which is not true at all. I definitely do care. Whether it's about work, friends, life in general, etc. I care. So, it's not that.
I came to thinking about this quite a bit, asking myself, what makes me a non stressed out person. I mean, LOTS of people in my life are stressed out 23 hours of the day. And here I am, with one of the most stressful jobs out there, by the way, and still...not so stressed. (I'm an event planner full-time, so I deal with ALL kinds of problems, everyday.) This ALONE should stress me out. But for whatever reason, it doesn't.
I'm not saying that I never get stressed out. I'm saying that I'm not an overly stressed out person. Stress is inevitable. We all have it. Some of us have it higher than others.
Dealing with it is the biggest challenge.
Then it came to me. It's HOW I deal with stress. Because no matter what, you cannot avoid life. Unless you sit at home on your couch everyday and never leave the house, there's no avoiding life and all that comes with it. And even if you sit at home, the bills are still piling up, life is STILL happening.
It's all in the way you handle it.
How are you handling life and the stressfulness that comes with it?
I'm in no way a stress expert, but I've examined my own life, and obviously when something is working for me, I want to share it with you guys.
I don't get stressed out often, and these are small things I do in life to stay healthy and stress-free:
GET ENOUGH SLEEP. This is probably the biggest thing for me. If I don't get enough sleep, you WILL notice my terrible mood. You guys already know I'm not a morning person. I'd like to punch those those chirpy morning people right in the face if I could. And not because they're annoying (because they slightly are), but because I'm totally fucking jealous. I've read countless articles on becoming a morning person, and I've tried every trick in the book, and I just CAN'T. So, I need my eight hours of sleep to function. And no, not eight hours of 'okay' sleep, but eight hours of GREAT sleep. This means, you have to shut down. Whatever is going through your mind, turn it off. I know, I know, it's easier said than done. But, you can do things to shut off. Which brings me to my next point.
MEDITATE. I don't do a whole lot of meditating, but when I do, I commit. I pull out ALL the stops. This means, my diffuser is letting out 'tranquillity' essential oil, I've got candles going, barely any lights on, and I'm in my comfiest bathrobe. You need to get into the mindset of meditation, otherwise it really won't do much for you.
Another thing about meditation is that you don't need to follow the 'meditation rules.' I know in yoga, they teach you to meditate without any thoughts in your mind. To let everything go and try and relax. It kind of never worked for me. So, I obviously did my own thing. I like to think of meditation as a time to think of whatever you need to, and then once you're done meditating, let go of whatever you were thinking of. So, this means, if you're meditating for 15 minutes, use that 15 minutes to think of whatever is on your mind. Whether it's work related, school related, relationship issues, whatever is stressing you out. Think about it, analyze it during your meditation. And once that's over, let it go. This way, you're ready to go to sleep with already having finished your stressful-thoughts.
Does that make sense? It worked for me, so I'm sharing it. But remember, you don't have to follow the rules. Make your own. ALWAYS. Do whatever is working for you.
UNPLUG FROM SOCIAL MEDIA. Probably the toughest thing to do for blogger, because it's my job to stay connected. I try and do this everyday for a little bit. We are looking at screens non stop. At least with my jobs, I am. Emails are constantly coming through on both my phones. Yes, both. Social media notifications are blinking, text messages are flying in all the time.
SILENT. Put your shit on silent. For at least an hour of the day. Turn off all notifications and enjoy some alone time with you. Your mind will slowly clear itself of stresses. When you're constantly connected on social media, or texting someone, or emailing someone, you're never left alone to dwindle with your own thoughts. You're constantly communicating. Which is not good for the mind. You need to learn to shut off and take a break from everyone. Disconnect. In today's world, it's the hardest thing to do. So even if you're doing it for 20-30 minutes, you're doing well!
MUSIC. Yes, music. I grew up in a household that really loved music. My mother would blast country music every morning on weekends. My sister is a singer-songwriter. So, music was a huge part of my childhood, and still is. Music gets you to another world, in my opinion. When I want a moment to myself, I'll put my phone in another room, pour myself a glass of wine, and turn up the music really loud. Loud enough that I can't hear my own thoughts. And soft enough that my hearing isn't affected. LOL. And I'll actually dance around my place.
This is probably one of my favourite ways to let go of stress. It may seem silly to be dancing around my place with blaring music, but it's what works. TRUST ME. Try this, and you'll actually feel a whole lot better. Music is something magical. You can always relate to the words. Obviously, don't put on something depressing. LOL.
There are many, many ways to handle stress. Just google it, and you'll come across 8475280654 articles telling you to exercise, eat healthy, etc. etc. I didn't google anything. I'm telling you what works for me. You need to look at your own life, and figure out what works for you.
Stress is not doing your body any good. It ages you, and NO ONE wants that. And I get that stress is inevitable. We can't hide from it. It comes to us whether we like it or not. But, we can all deal with it in a healthy way. Find your healthy way.
Who else handles stress well? Share your tips!!
I hope everyone had an AMAZING Family Day off! Happy Tuesday, back to the grindddd!
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