Monday, September 18, 2017

Balancing What I Share & Don't Share On Social Media.

S O C I A L  M E D I A.

We ALL have a love-hate relationship with it.

We’re all on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snpachat, Insta-stories, Pinterest, etc.

And we all love to use it. Whether we’re the ones posting, or we’re just viewing what others post. I mean, do we ever get sick of seeing food pictures? How many times are we going to see another snap of Pumpkin Spice Lattes with the hashtag #basicbitch? Or my personal favourite, a boomerang of glasses clinging?

As a blogger, I’m always on social media. Whether I’m tweeting about an event I’m attending, or literally just snapping my dinner plans. The one thing I always get asked is if I ever take a break from social media or if I ever get sick of it or if there are somethings I keep personal?

The answer to all of that is, yes. (Although, some of my friends would beg to differ. HA.)

Side note: If I show up late to work, my coworkers check Snapchat first. If I haven’t snapped anything, they think I’m dead…

Nonetheless, I do take breaks from social media, I do get sick of it, and I DEFINITELY keep things private.

But because I’m a blogger, I enjoying sharing things on social media. I feel closer to my followers when I do. Especially with Snapchat and Insta-stories being so raw and real, I feel like I can really connect with you guys. I love the comments I receive, the personal DMs, and questions I get from you guys. It’s real. Without social media, we wouldn’t be able to connect so easily.

This is why I LOVE social media so much. I can go into all the reason I don’t like it, but for the most part, it’s amazing. It brings people together. I get to meet like-minded bloggers and connect with them. There have been countless occasions where I’ve reached out to other bloggers on certain things, asked them questions about a specific topic, or was just curious about a post of theirs. It’s nice to use a platform like Instagram or Snapchat to be able to connect with people who we don’t even know. We can connect with people from other countries! We live in a time that’s FULL of opportunity, so why not get on social media?

I mean yes, social media is being used in all negative ways as well. Which I cannot understand WHYYY. There’s a lot of online bullying going on, a lot of dick pics people are sending (this one really needs to stop), and just a lot of stupid shit in general. Like, why?! What about me says, “please send a dick pic my way...”

Another topic on social media is this notion of 'social envy.' This is HUGE. We believe that others lead happy lives because they post pictures of them in happy situations. And we actually get jealous of their 'happy lives.' Guys, Instagram is staged! Think about this: No one is ever going to post photos of them crying after a fight with their significant other, or them dealing with depression, or a heartbreak. People ONLY ever post happy pictures. So no, their lives aren't perfect. They just don't want to share the unsettling things in their lives. Because why would they? Just remember that the next time you think 'oh man, she lives the perfect life.' Because she doesn't. She just wishes to share the good things in her life, and keep the other stuff, private.

Anyway, I love seeing people use social media for the right reasons. I love seeing bloggers connect, I love seeing people bring awareness to mental health issues, and I never get sick of seeing a good flatlay pic.

Getting back to what I share and don’t share on social…

What people share on social media is their prerogative. So, stop judging. If someone wants to share 490735734 pumpkin spice lattes in a boomerang all day, everyday, let them. Don’t be a judgy fuck. If it makes them happy, who cares? If you don’t like it, unfollow them.

It’s the same thing with selfies. If someone is taking a selfie, it means they actually like the way they look. They’re not somewhere hating their body. Isn’t that a good thing? We go around encouraging people to love themselves, yet we shame them for taking selfies. It’s kind of contradicting if you think about it.

If you want to take a selfie, do it. Please, PLEASE don’t give a shit what people think.

There are things I like to keep private. Most of my life is public. Not going to lie. That’s because it’s the nature of my job. As a blogger, you’re expected to share. You share things you like, things you don’t like, products you’re trying, your friends, your boyfriend, what you’re eating, where you’re going, etc. The list goes on. I’m not very public when it comes to my family and relationships. Those things are important to me, and as much as I’d like to share everything with you guys, I’d also like to keep a few things to myself. That’s not to say that I’m hiding anything. I just need to find a balance of what I share and not share. That’s all.

It's a good thing to keep some things to yourself.

Anyway. I just wanted to share my thoughts on social media with you guys, because I do get a lot of questions about it. I think it's GREAT. Many people don't like it and don't use it, and I think that's fine. I think when you use social, you need to find a good balance.

And for the love of God, let's stop with the dick pics. LOL.

What are you thoughts on social media? I'd love to know what you guys think...

Bye for now!

Xx, kim

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Monday, September 11, 2017

Overcoming Self-Doubt In 6 Steps.

Okay, let’s dive into this topic of self-doubt.

Because let’s face it, we’ve ALL had a little self-doubt at some point in our lives. Maybe some of us still struggle with it? Maybe some of us are better at hiding it than others? Who knows.

But, I feel like we should discuss it, and try and get through it together.

Why? Because all this self-doubt is basically stopping you from doing something amazing. And something as small as self-doubt, should NOT.

Let me tell you, I’m no expert on this topic. I doubt myself ALL. THE. TIME. It might not seem like it, but I sure as hell do. Maybe I’m one of those people who are better at hiding it? It gets the best of all of us, trust me.

I mean, when you think about it, it’s not so simple overcoming it. It’s easy to say, “Have confidence!” “Don’t overthink things.” “Just do it.”

But when it comes down to it, it’s harder than we think. Right? What if we fail? What if things don’t go as planned? What if, what if, what if…? The list of self-doubting questions is a long one. 

Most people seem to think that successful, confident people never have any self-doubt. They are quick to make decisions, and never seem to regret anything. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Second guessing yourself is human nature. We ALL have it. We’ve ALL been there. The key is overcoming it. How did those successful people overcome their self-doubt?

Naturally, I did some research on this topic. There are TONS of articles on this. I even read a bit of this in the book I’m (still) reading, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fu*k by Mark Manson. I say ‘still’ because not only am I the slowest reader of life, but I also have very little time to read. For the record, I’m only really slow, because I like to highlight the shit outta my books. I’m really just absorbing the information the best I can ;)

Okay, so how can we overcome self-doubt? Well, I’ve read a billion articles, and I’ve carefully selected a few ways I think are a good way to start.

1. Surround yourself with the right people:

If you hang around people who constantly remind you that you’re not good enough, well then you’re going to feel like you’re not good enough. When you have a great idea, talk to like-minded people about it. The WORST is having a great idea/business plan and telling a friend/boyfriend about it, and they have no excitement in their voice while you’re raging with excitement. I used to date this guy who I would tell all my great ideas to, and his response would be “mmhmm, that’s great babe” in the most monotone voice EVER, while watching the football game on TV….


Like, what?!? Am I talking to myself here? (In all honesty, I was).

Don’t tell people like that your bright ideas. They aren’t worth it. They will just bring you down. Associate yourself with people who will engage in your ideas, converse with you, and possibly even bring you greater ideas. You’ll feel better, and people like that will bring down your self-doubt. TRUST ME.

2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others.

“She’s 30, married to the perfect guy, 3 kids, and runs a successful business. I want that life. Why isn’t that me??”

STOP. Just stop.

I mean, if I’m being real, that was me. Sometimes it’s STILL me. Because I’m human and it happens. I have to check myself sometimes and remember that I have a great life. The best life, actually. If you compare yourself to Susie next door, you are not going to get very far. Susie worked her ass off to get where she is, so you should stop comparing and do the same. Everyone goes at different speeds in life, and that’s okay. Find a way to accept your speed. In fact, life is NOT a race. Take it at your own pace. Just make sure you’re crossing off goals as you move along.

3. Set smaller goals.

Setting goals in general is great. However, when we think of goal-setting, we seem to only think big picture. While setting big goals are great, don’t forget about immediate, smaller goals. It’s harder to achieve big-picture goals right away. But when you set smaller goals, you achieve them quicker, and somehow, that’s more motivational. #winning.

There’s nothing more satisfying to me than a list that’s all crossed off. UGH, the ultimate satisfaction, really. I mean, my Saturday morning list that’s got a bunch of chores, plus blog work, plus emails, etc. and all crossed off? Best. Feeling. Ever.

4. Stop Dwelling On The Negatives.

We ALL have failures. Small ones, big ones. Failed business ideas, failed friendships, failed relationships. Human nature is to dwell on why, why, why we failed? But let’s divert that into more positive thinking, shall we? Focus on your successes. Even if they are small ones. Bloggers/Influencers: Don’t focus on how many sponsored posts you’re not getting. Focus on the fact that you even got ONE sponsored post. This is huge in today’s blogging world. If you want to quit your day job for blogging, hey, I’m all for that. Start setting your smaller goals to achieve that big one.

5. Be Decisive.

Don’t be afraid to make decisions. Usually, your first gut feeling is probably the right choice. Most of us overthink decisions till we’re blue in the face. Don’t do that. Just make a decision and move on. If it’s right, you’ll be happy. If it’s not, well, you’ve learned something, and you’ll do better next time. Again, don’t dwell on your failures. We ALL make mistakes. Many times we regret those. And we ALWAYS learn from them. At least, we should. If you’re not learning from your mistakes, then we have a problem. So long, as you are learning from your mistakes, you should be fine. Because eventually, you’ll get it right.

6. Be Vulnerable. 

This is probably the biggest self-doubting issue. We are afraid to be vulnerable to the world. What if they don’t like me? What if I get no responses? What if I fail? When you’re vulnerable to the world, you run the risk of criticism. Which is hella scary. Do it anyway. Be vulnerable. Who cares if people hate it? For all you know, people might love it. There’s always SOMEONE who will come at you with negative vibes, but for the most part, you’ll probably get a positive response. And if you don’t, then go back, tweak it, and come back stronger. We’re not perfect. And the world knows that, because no one is. Be vulnerable. Let down your walls. And trust yourself.


Okay, that was a lot for a Monday. How do you guys handle self-doubt? Share your secrets.

Andddddd how was everyone's weekend? 

Xx, kim

Photography by Victoria Jmourko

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Thursday, September 7, 2017

How To Look & Feel Like Supermodel, Sara Sampaio + GIVEAWAY!

Some of us stalk celebs like Jenn Aniston, Selena Gomez, Ryan Goz, etc.

Me? If I’m not stalking Kate Middleton and her adorable kids, I’m stalking supermodels. Everyone from Cindy Crawford to Behati Prinsloo. Mainly their skincare and beauty secrets. Because let’s face it, they all seems to have perfect skin. So, naturally I want to know how, why, when, what they’re using, etc.

My latest obsession is supermodel, Sara Sampaio. Victoria Secret model, Portuguese, 26-year old BOMBSHELL. She’s SUCH a natural beauty. She just signed on as the Beauty Ambassador for Moroccanoil.

This of course, excited me because A) I LOVE Sara Sampaio. And B) If she’s using these products, then I want them too!

I did a little digging, and figured out which products she’s using. Moroccanoil was kind enough to send over the chicest all-white, straw beach bag, with not only the products that Sara uses, but also a gorgeous white caftan that’s one of Sarah’s faves! Naturally, I was squealing when the beach bag arrived. Because now, I get to try out the products that Sara uses. (Read till the end, I'm doing a giveaway!)

Sara's Faves.

So, I’ve been testing them for the past few weeks now, and let me tell you…if you guys haven’t used Moroccanoil’s body products yet, get on board! We all know how fabulous the Moroccanoil hair products are. I have been using their hair oils and hairsprays for years now, and I’m absolutely obsessed with them. But for the first time, I got to try out their body products, and WOAH.

Here are Sara Sampaio’s (and my) faves:

Moroccanoil Shimmering Body Oil:

Who doesn't love a little shimmer in their body oil?? This product has ingredients such as Argan Oil and Sesame Oil, so obviously I jumped on board. The shimmering oil is super hydrating, and has a tiny bit of shimmer for that glowy look. I love the feeling of this on my skin. It feels smooth and silky. I also love that it doesn’t leave a residue after. It’s lightly fragranced with the signature scent of Moroccanoil and absorbs quickly into your skin.

Moroccanoil Body Soufflé:

This body soufflé is something I like to use right out of the shower on damp skin. It’s a lightweight, whipped cream that drenches your skin in hydration. This is best for someone with very dry skin. It’s got ingredients of Argan Oil and Shea Butter, leaving your skin EXTRA smooth. It’s also great for anti-aging! I like to use it under my neck for tightening. Many of us forget about our neck when moisturizing, which can age pretty quickly!

Ps. I'm going to need another one of these, since my best friend stole this from me yesterday.

Moroccanoil Dry Texture Spray:

This is something new that I tried out. You guys know how much I love that beachy look. It’s SO hard to achieve that look unless your hair is AT LEAST 2 days old and got a shit ton of products in there. Mine needs a good 3-4 days of not washing it AND this dry texture spray. It’s good when you want that instant beachy look without the dirty hair. This spray gives you the right amount of hold, without leaving your hair feeling stiff, and it's perfect for styling.

Moroccanoil Treatment Oil:

Lastly, we all know and LOVE this product. This is Moroccanoil’s signature product that has been around forever. I’ve been using this for years, and I love it. All you need is a couple drops of this oil, and your hair looks shiny and beautiful! I use so many hot tools to style my hair, and I feel like this treatment restores it! It gives life to my hair when my ends are dry and brittle. You can use this on damp or dry hair.

Ok, so there you have it.

I’m pretty proud of my stalking skills. LOL.

Who else should I stalk? Send me suggestions!

GIVEAWAY TIME!! Because YOU guys need to try out these products too!

How to enter:

1. Head over to my Instagram @thechicconfidential.

2. Follow me.

3. Comment on my latest post and tell me WHY you need these products in your life. 

BONUS ENTRY: Tag a friend who might also love these products.

***Giveaway closes Tuesday, Sept. 12th***

Okay, how was everyone's long weekend?

If you we're following along on Snap/Insta, you know I was spending it wine-touring around Niagara-on-the-Lake. Long weekends should be spent drinking copious amounts of wine, no? I mean, I think so. We visited a BUNCH of beautiful wineries this weekend. We of course did the wine bike tour with Grape Escapes again, because they are amazing and all of you should try this! If you have no idea what I'm talking about, read this post.

We visited four new wineries this time around. I have no idea how I managed to ride around 18km, but somehow I did it. I don't think I slowed down the group either! Yay me. I did however, manage to drop my phone out of my back pocket while riding back, and pannnnikedd when I realized my phone was gone. Luckily, we live in the best country in the world (with the kindest people) and an older couple found it. We ended up calling my phone, and they picked up and met us somewhere to give it back. They were wonderful!! I could NOT be more thankful for them. Who puts a phone in a back pocket while riding a bike?? I blame the wine...

Once that was settled, we decided to do a few more wineries on our own. Because, clearly we weren't finished with wine tastings...

We visited Two Sisters Winery, which was my personal favourite. The winery was so chic. They had the most beautiful chandeliers, and the yummiest wine ever! A rosé to die for. We also stopped at The Hare Wine Co. Another gorgeous winery. Very rustic looking, lots of brick and wood. We visited Wayne Gretzky's, and Southbrook Winery also. To be very honest, you can't go wrong with any of the wineries in NOTL. They are ALL so beautiful. I kind of want to just quit everything here, and move in by a vineyard. The view doesn't get old. Trust me.

Who's been? What are your favourite wineries in Niagara-on-the-Lake? I go at least once every summer (if not more) and wineries are top of the list.

K, chat soon loves.

Xx, kim

This post was in collaboration with Moroccanoil. As always, all opinions are my own.

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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Monday, August 28, 2017

Need A New Fragrance? Look No Further.

Well, hello there.

We’re chatting about fragrances today. Actually, just one in particular.

I feel like we haven’t really touched upon this topic on the blog, and it’s kind of a big thing.

Choosing a scent is very personal. At least for me, when choosing a scent, I need it to be very specific. Like, I want people to recognize me when they smell it somewhere.

It’s got to be light, crisp, refreshing, & citrusy, with hints of florals. Not too floral-ly though.

In my teen years, I was a huge fan of Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana. I mean, I feel like A LOT of girls were a fan of that one. It was THEE scent back then. Light, refreshing, citrusy. All the right smells. And it was just sexy. I kept ALL the bottles too…

A few years ago I switched to Chance Eau Fraiche by Chanel (the green bottle).

I feel like when you go Chanel, you never go back. Anyone else?

However, if you do use Chanel, you also know that you use your sprays sparingly! Because every spray costs you. And when you’re nearing the end of that bottle, you’re saving up for the next. It’s no drugstore purchase. It’s Chanel.

Nearing the end of my last Chanel bottle, I was obviously saving up for the next. And then I got the White Tea fragrance by Elizabeth Arden sent over to me. A beautiful little white bottle.

OH BOY. Game changer.

Let’s just say, I’m kind of making the switch.

I’ve been using Chanel for years. 3 years to be exact. I’ve wanted to make the switch for a long time now. I didn’t want to be tied down to one scent forever, you know? But nothing ever caught my nose. Until this White Tea fragrance.

You guys, it’s the perfect scent. Check out what the creators say about the scent:

“We wanted to capture that refreshing moment of blissful solace experienced at the first sip of tea. White Tea Vapors and Sea Breeze Accord develop into the sweet smell of White Iris before finishing with the warm wood scent of Madras Wood, Tonka Bean and a delicately blended trio of musks.”

I couldn’t describe it better myself! It’s everything you’d want in a scent. Not too feminine. It’s got hints of wood and spice, and ends off in a sweet, citrus-y scent. Just perfect.

It’s nice to switch it up every once in a while, so that you don’t become too predictable. I’ve wanted to do it for a while, but never found the right scent for me. Like I said, finding the right scent is a very personal thing, and not something that happens quickly. I mean, if you know me, you know I’m the pickiest person alive. Not just for scents, but everything! Remember how I looked at over 30 condos before choosing the one I’m in now? Yea…

But once I decide, I commit, you know?

Anyway – this scent is very much what I’m currently loving! It’s obviously not for everyone, but I urge you to try it out. It’s also not going to break the bank. Very afforadable. Sorry, Chanel.

Kk, how was everyone's weekend?

Mine was super low key. I spent Friday night in with board games, wine, and a few of my favourite people. On Saturday I was at High Park walking some trails. It wasn't the warmest of weekends, however, with a hoodie, it wasn't bad.

HAPPY MONDAY, everyone!!

Chat soon.

Xx, kim

This post was in collaboration with Langton PR. As always, all opinions are my own.

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Boobs & Bras - Let's Get Sexy.

This post is strictly for my ladies.

Let’s talk about boobs, cleavage, A-cups, and push-up bras. Because let’s face it, it’s kind of an important topic.

I mean, we all have them, love them (hopefully), they’re sexy, and sometimes they can MAKE an outfit.

Getting slightly personal here, but obviously nothing shocking - I don’t have huge boobs. In fact I have little A-cups. HAHA. Have I always wanted bigger boobs? When I was 16, YES! I wanted the biggest boobs. Who didn’t though? All the hottest models had big boobs, guys at 16 wanted girls with big boobs, and overall, “big boobs” were sexy.

Now? I’m just happy to have them. I don’t care, big or small. I have accepted the boobs I have.

Plus, if I wanted big boobs now, I can just go buy them. And by buy them, I mean, bras that can give me all kinds of push-up. Not surgery. Although that’s an option as well…(just a more expensive one).

Sometimes, us small-boobed chicks just want a little sumthin’ sumthin’ in there to make an outfit look sexy. You know? We’re not asking for a lot here. Just a littttttlee cleavage maybe? Sometimes, when I’m really reaching, I’ll contour my boobs to make them appear bigger. LOL. Being the MOST real here guys, so don’t judge me, cause I knowwww some of you do that!

Anywayyyy. I don’t need to contour my boobs anymore because I found the perfect cleavage bra. Like, an actual bra that not only has push-up support in there, but also has a way to adjust your cleavage to whatever you want. If you want a massive one, you can have that. If you’re looking for something a bit more on the natural side, you can have that too! All A-cup gals REJOICE!

I came across a brand that really kills it in the bra department. Like, they really understand women’s bodies, their needs, their curves, and their breasts. They sent me a couple bras (a nude and a black) to test out, and HOLY SHIT, all of a sudden I HAVE BOOBS!

I can like, SEE THEM. HAHA. Okay, I’m being a tad dramatic. But it’s kind of exciting for this 34-A cup girl, ya know?!

The second I put these on, and adjusted the cleavage, I felt sexier. Now, I’m not saying that small boobs are not sexy. Because, I’ve never had an issue not feeling sexy with what I have. I’ve never had a boyfriend tell me my boobs are too small or anything. (Because that would be a dick boyfriend...) I’m just saying, it’s a nice change. I like to switch it up.

Am I going to rock a cleavage everyday? Probably not. But with these bras, you don’t have to. They are super comfy for everyday use as well.

I have the ‘Maximum Cleavage Strapless Bra’ – which is probably the best strapless bra I’ve ever owned. Even with the smallest boobs, strapless bras can be the most annoying things to wear, ever!! They always move, slip down, never hold up your boobs the way you want them to, and overall, they’re just uncomfortable. (Men will never know the struggle, ugh!) I put this strapless bra on and aggressively danced around my apartment. It held up perfectly. I was so impressed. The trim of the bra is made of specially formulated vinyl that runs along the top and bottom of the “stay put” wings. Basically making your strapless bra unmovable.

I also have the Convertible Bra in black. (The one I'm wearing in the photos). It's super comfy and you can wear the straps in every way possible. Pull the cleavage straps together for a dramatic look, or keep them off for a more simple, natural look. I absolutely love this bra.

You basically just pull the straps together to create whatever kind of cleavage you want.

What a time to be alive, right?

Ok, weigh in. Who would buy these and love them? I'm loving them. No, really. I'm having a lot of fun with these bras, and this new cleavage. HA.

Ps. Because you guys are amazing, here's a $10 off coupon for the bra. Use my code: CHICUPBRA10D.

Chat soon.

Xx, kim

This post was in collaboration with UpBra. As always, all opinions are my own.

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Getting & Staying Motivated.

Many of you message me asking how I stay motivated? How I plan out my content for the blog? How I keep the blog going? And how I gain my inspiration?

Before I even begin to dive into motivation, let me start off by saying that somedays, I definitely am NOT motivated.

Somedays, I'd rather just say 'f*uck it' and stay in bed. 

Somedays, I just DON'T feel like posting a blog post and instead, watch Grey's Anatomy. 

There are many days where I just don't feel like it. Trust me. But, I do it anyways. 

Why? Because I remember why I started blogging in the first place. I remember why I do it everyday. (Read the story here.) I also don't put too much pressure on myself. After all, not posting a blog post one week, isn't going to kill me. In fact, it's better to post nothing, than post something as a filler. This way you clear your mind, and come back with something great. Something you actually want to discuss.

So, how do I get/stay motivated? 

Well, there are so many ways one can do so. I'm going to share a few that help me wake up and want to blog.

Ultimately, the only thing that is going motivate you in life, is YOU.

You can seek inspiration, sure. But YOU are the only person that's going to get your butt outta bed and do shit. 

My blog is my business. It's something that has grown over the years. Something I am proud of everyday. The success of my blog did not happen overnight. In fact, it took years and is still no where near where I want it to be. There's a lot more I want to do/accomplish with it. Therefore, I need to stay motivated. 

This post isn't just for bloggers, btw. It's for everyone that has to wake up and hustle in the morning, doing whatever it is you do. Whether you're a student finishing college, or a single mom juggling two jobs, or a business owner, a doctor, a teacher, whatever. You get it. 

EVERYONE needs a little motivation sometimes.

So, how do I stay motivated?

Here are a few of my tips:

1) Start your morning off right: If you start your morning off being a Moody Maggie, then your entire day is going to be shit. I can tell you that much. Get up and be grateful for something. If all you're grateful for is waking up, then that's enough. I like to start my morning off with a little gratitude prayer. After all, I survived the night, and woke up to a gorgeous day. (Unless of course it's raining....that's a buzz kill). Some people write down things they are grateful for every morning. Trust me, I'd LOVE to do this. And maybe I'll work on this, but mornings are not my thing. You know this from reading this post

2) Content Planning: This one is a big one for me. With having a full-time job, it can be difficult to keep up with the blog sometimes. Between my FT job and the blog, this leaves very little room for a social life. Don't get me wrong. You can still have one. You just need to plan yourself out a bit better. This means, planning out your content in advance. I try to plan out my content a month in advance. This doesn't mean I have a months worth of blogs already written out. NO NO. This just means, I have planned out what I'd like to have posted this month. I like to spread out my topics on the blog, so I sticky-note my monthly editorial calendar with all my ideas. It can be a bit of a mess, but it works for me. Some people are very digital, and have everything online. My editorial calendar is very much hand-written. This way I can see everything, and where I need to fill in blog posts. If you're more of a digital planner, you do you!

3) Lists: You guys already know how much I love lists, so I won't go too much into this one. I like to create lists on lists. Really, these lists save my life. Time is extremely valuable, so don't waste it. Make your lists and cross shit off. In fact, always start with the most difficult task first. This way, you breeze through the rest. On Saturday mornings I ALWAYS start off my day with creating a list of things I need to get done. This can include editing photos, shooting a bunch of content, and then of course, groceries, laundry, vacuuming, etc. I rarely do any blog writing on Saturdays as there is usually too much else going on. 

4) Give Yourself a Break: This is something a lot of you don't know. When you're feeling uninspired, take a break. There is nothing wrong with giving yourself some time to recoup. We all need that from time to time. In fact, giving yourself a break, can give you a new perspective on things. When I'm constantly working, I can sometimes feel really uninspired. That's when I know my mind needs a break. Maybe it's just a few hours away from the laptop, or maybe it's a few days. Whatever you need to refresh your mind, do it.

5) Squash The Negative Thoughts: It's easy to get sucked into negative thoughts sometimes. There are negative people ALL around us, waiting for us to fall on our faces. Remember, it's okay to fall; just get back up when you do. Surround yourself with people who support your dreams and goals. In fact, talk to them and feed off their positive energy. Even though all they may say is something obvious like, "you're doing amazing things" or "great job" or "keep at it" it's still better than hearing nothing from a Negative Nancy. When you surround yourself with positive people, I PROMISE you, positive things will start happening.

Okay so what about you guys? What's your secret to getting/staying motivated? Share!

On another note, this two-piece is really one of my faves right now. I mean, it's a little out there, and we haven't had the best weather for this, buttttt cuuuute right?! It's also on sale for $8.99! I feel like I need to vacay it up in the South of France (rosé in hand) and really rock this two piece to it's fullest, you know?

I cannot believe we're already in the middle of August. I'm slowly packing away all my maxi dresses... :(

Okay, I'm off to stalk some of my favourite bloggers for a little more motivation, today! Happy Wednesday you guys!! The week is almost over.

Xx, kim

This post was in collaboration with ROMWE. As always, all opinions are my own.

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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Monday, August 14, 2017

Wellness Tip: The Acupressure Mat.

Well, surprise surprise, I’m coming to you guys with another wellness tip.

This one is a GOODIE! It’s been tried and tested.

Just so you guys know, there are lotsssss of products/tips/tricks/hacks I try, and I don’t bring them to The Chic Confidential if I don’t 100% believe in them. In fact, many of them suck. But the few that are amazing, I feel like I obviously have to share.

Here, on The Chic Confidential, we’re ALL about sharing. If something is working for me, you can bet your ass I’m going to post about it. No secrets.

Okay, so let’s get to this wellness tip! If you’re following on Insta/Snap, you’ve probably seen me use the Acupressure Mat. I posted a couple days ago asking if you guys wanted a full blog post on it, and I had a ton of responses saying that you did. So voila, here I am.

Side note: I have a HUGE Amazon problem. Like, I buy everything. I see something weird on there, and I feel like I need it in my life. Eye masks, lip masks, facial oils, ice rollers, etc. You get it. So, when I came across the acupressure mat, I was intrigued. I started reading about it. Researching like a crazy person, and then immediately bought it on Amazon. (You should know, NONE of this is sponsored).

Before I get into the benefits, let me tell you wtf an acupressure mat even is…

It’s a self-applied acupuncture device commonly made of a foam mattress covered in cotton sacking and embedded with hard plastic disks containing protruding spikes.

So basically, it’s a bed of nails. Get on board.

A bed of nails with ENDLESS benefits though. Here me out before you close this blog post.

And before you think it’s going to hurt, I’ll tell you now that I’m pretty fucking fragile, and do not have a huge pain threshold, and I can handle the “pain” no problem. So, if I can, you can!

It actually only hurts for a few seconds. Maybe a minute at most. And then once you pass that, it’s nothing but relief. (Almost like a weird fetish? LOL).

Some major benefits: induces deep relaxation, stimulates energy, relieves pain and heightens happiness.

The mat is great for people with back pain. Now that I’m 30, you guys know I’ve been cracking the whip on certain things: I’ve been hitting the gym a lot more, taking ALL the vitamins possible, drinking more water, being mindful of unhealthy eating habits, & taking all the anti-aging precautions. (But who are we kidding, I hopped on the anti-aging bandwagon at 25…)


Most mats have over 6000 points on them, which stimulates 100 acupressure point on your back. This starts to increase blood flow in your body which helps heal muscles and lets them relax to release pain and tension. Lay on the mat for about 20 minutes. Grab a book or listen to some relaxing music. You will instantly feel relaxed. Trust me. You can either lay on it with a very thin t-shirt, or completely naked if the pain isn’t too much. I like to wear a thin t-shirt, because I have sensitive skin, and I don’t want to irritate it. Most acupressure mats also come with a neck pillow, which helps with neck pain.

I sit at a computer ALL DAY. This is the worst thing for posture, back and neck pain. I try and get up every couple hours to stretch out my muscles, but realistically, it’s not enough. The mat really helps with the pain in my muscles.


Many people find that it helps with stress and anxiety. Now the mat works differently for everyone. Some people find it relaxing, others use it for more energy. Personally, I think it’s also the time of day that you use it. A lot of people use it in the mornings for energy. Since I never have any time in the mornings for even make-up, I can’t be bothered to use this in the mornings. I like to use it first thing after coming home from work, or right before bed. It can really help with sleep, as it relaxes the muscles.


If you accidently step on this, it can be highly painful. Only because it was accidental, and you weren’t mentally prepared for it. If you mentally prepare yourself for stepping on this, it can relieve all kinds of pain. If you suffer from any kind of foot pain, try out this mat! I don’t suffer from foot pain, but stepping on the mat can also help with energy. When I lay on the mat, it’s more of a relaxing/de-stressing feeling. When I step on the mat, I get more of an energy burst. WEIRD, right?


The rounded nails against the skin help the body release endorphins, the body’s very own “happiness drug” which provides a sense of joy. Endorphins are neurotransmitters, or peptides, and the word is short for endogenous and morphine, meaning a morphine-like substance created by the body itself. Endorphins reduce pain and create feelings of euphoria and well-being. Without getting too science-y on you, just know that the mat releases endoraphins. And endorphins = happiness. 

If you’re still not convinced, check out this list of benefits:
  • Improve circulation 
  • Increase energy level 
  • Reduce blood pressure 
  • Reduce stress and anxiety 
  • Alleviate headache 
  • Relieve tension and muscle aches 
  • Improve sleep and relieve insomnia 
  • Relieve chronic neck and back pain 
  • Activate the parasympathetic nervous system 
  • Benefit weight loss by reducing cortisol levels 
  • Improve heart rate variability 
  • Revitalize and rejuvenate 
  • Improve skin complexion 
  • Relieve constipation 
  • Alleviate malaise 
  • Helps with cellulite. (WHAT?!) 

Overall, I’m kind of obsessed with the mat. I want to take it everywhere with me. It’s actually very lightweight and easy to take anywhere. If you work in an office environment, you can even bring it to work and sit on it for back pain relief. People may look at you weirdly, but who really cares, right? Take it when you travel. Nothing is worse than airplane back pain.

The brand of the acupressure mat doesn’t matter at all. I bought mine off Amazon, and it was $26.99 bucks. It came with the neck pillow as well. Best $26.99 bucks I ever spent!

Okay, so what about you guys? Any wellness tips you want to share? Who uses the acupressure mat? Anyone?

Chat soon!

Xx, kim

You might also like these wellness tips: Get softer lips in 2 minutes, Natural deodorant, Saje Diffuser

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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Tuesday, August 8, 2017

My 5-Minute Face.

K, who else has ZERO time in the morning for a full face of make up?

I mean, between getting (decently) dressed, making breakfast, stretching and ice rolling, who the heck has time for make up? I don't. 

But, when you need to actually interact with people at your job, you kind of have to make an attempt to put on a little bit of make up. 

MINIMAL though...

I shot a little video outlining exactly what I do in the mornings for make up. It takes me 5 full minutes, it's super easy and quick and perfect for those rushed mornings. (Which in my case is every morning).


AluimerMD Tinted Sunscreen: I always like to use a sunscreen as my base. This one is my absolutely favourite. If you guys don't already know that, check out this blog post. It's very light, and I love that it's tinted. I don't care for foundation, so this is actually quite perfect.

Maybelline Fit Me Powder: I like to even out my skin-tone with a little bit of powder. This just takes away any oils from the sunscreen, as it can be quite oily. I also LOVE this particular powder. It goes on very light, and it's not too matte. You know I love my dewy skin!

Essence Satin Touch Blush: I'll either use this, or some kind of bronzer. In the summer I get pretty tanned as it is, so I never really resort to a bronzer. I love a light shade of pink for my cheeks. It just adds a little something to the whole look. I'm not a contour person. Only if I'm shooting a blog post will I contour. (not this post though ;)

Rimmel London Eyebrow Kit: BROWSSSS ON FLEEK. I feel like if I was stranded in a forest, and was only allowed one thing from my make-up bag, it would be my eyebrow kit. (And my MAC eyebrow brush!) I absolutely love this little kit. I can't go anywhere without my brows done. I legit feel...naked? Anyone else? This eyebrow kit comes with a cream and a powder. So, first you layer on the cream, and then add the brown powder to your brows. #fleekasSHIT

Essence Mascara: I don't fuss with mascara too much. I'm in no way a brand snob when it comes to my lashes. Anything will do. This brand has a TON of different mascaras, and they're all like 4 bucks. I've been using this brand for a while, and love it!


No eyeliner or eyeshadows, no foundation, no conturing. EASY PEASY, guys!!

This little routine takes me 5 minutes, and I swear 3 out of the 5 minutes is solely brows. #fuckenbrows. LOL

K, K, how was everyone's weekend?

I hope it was as relaxing and fun as mine was. 

My parents celebrated 33 years of marriage on Saturday. YAY them! 33 years is a lifetime for some. I honestly don't know how they did it. What's the secret?! 

And on Sunday, one of my best friends got hitched. I love weddings. I love celebrating love. Especially when it's one of my closest friends. (And when the bar is stocked with some real good cocktails). The bride wore black. SO CHIC. We danced, ate, and drank...a lot. 

I popped a few charcoal pills that night before drinking, (courtesy of the bride) and woke up with NO hangover. Holla! I feel like I need to do some research on this, because I'm feeling like this could be a good blog post? Thoughts? 

Anyway, overall it was a fantastic long weekend. What did you guys get up to? 

SIDE NOTE: Is anyone else dying that Prince Harry and Meagan Markle went to South Africa for her birthday?? If she comes back engaged, I'm going to cry. A tad dramatic, I know. Wtv. The inner me is squealing. 

Okay, I'm off.

Chat soon babes! Xx, kim

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Monday, July 31, 2017

Do What Makes Your Soul Shine.

I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again. Stop doing shit you hate doing.

GUYS, life is too short for that.

I came across this saying the other day while I was mindlessly scrolling through Facebook.

“Do what makes your soul shine.”

Sometimes when I have a couple minutes, I like to just scroll through my newsfeed. You come across all kinds of things: Funny videos of babies, memes, and sometimes the odd inspirational quote. (I don’t care for cat videos) :/

Anyway, I read that quote and stopped to think about it for a moment. I asked myself, am I doing things that make my soul shine? I thought about all the things in my life - my career(s), my relationships, even my eating/shopping habits (LOL) and wondered if all the choices I was making in life, made “my soul shine.”

Now I realize that sounds a bit…cheesy. Like, WTF does ‘making your soul shine’ even mean?!

I like to think of it as putting a smile on your face most of the time. Not every single minute of every day, because that would just be fucking weird. If you’re happy and smiling every single minute of every day, you’re on some blue pills or are majorly faking it.

It’s okay not to be smiling ALL the time. Shit happens right? We get frustrated at life, work, people, etc. It’s all in how we handle it. (I like to handle it with a coffee before I speak to anyone in the mornings). But that's me. You do you.

Ok, I’m getting off track here. The point I’m trying to make, and the point of this post, is to quit what’s making you hate your life, and do something that puts a smile on your face.

If you’re not loving what you’re doing, it will reflect on your work. Trust me.

Nothing is worse than going into a job every morning where all you want to do is stab your eyes out with your own office supplies. I’ve been there. It wasn’t that long ago where I was sitting in a home office in a basement, with no windows working for a terrible boss who I also wanted to stab with office supplies, btw. There wasn’t one thing I enjoyed about working there. From the 2 hour commute, to the grueling 8-hour day, to the condescending tone of my boss' voice, it was all…torture. I stuck it out for almost a year. Point is, I realized how much I hated it, I knew my worth, and I KNEW this couldn’t be it for me. This was NOT going to be my life.

I knew I had to leave and find something that made me happier. MUCH HAPPIER. Like, make my soul shine and shit.

Today, I’m proud to say that I do what makes me smile most days. Will this be it for me? Who knows? But for now, I don’t feel like stabbing anyone with office supplies. So, I feel like that’s a GREAT thing.

I don’t mean quit your day job when you have a mortgage, bills, and kids to pay for. That’s just stupid. What you need is a plan. So create one. Maybe you can’t quit your day job today. But who says you can’t quit in a year? Two years?

Everyone who’s got a successful business had a plan. Their companies didn’t just fall into their laps. They had a vision, a strategy, a mandate, possibly a team of people they trusted, and then executed everything once there was a solid plan.

If you quit your day job without having a plan thinking you’re going to become a millionaire overnight, you’re setting yourself up for failure. That much I can tell you. Although, we all know failure isn’t always a bad thing. Just read my post on failure.

Also, I know I’m kind of focusing on jobs/careers here, but this doesn’t just go for that. This goes for everything in life. Relationships. Are you in one that makes your soul shine? Meaning, are you happy most of the days? Is he/she putting a smile on your face? GET OUT if that’s not the case.

Again, I’ve been there. 7 years in a toxic relationship. 7 years of fighting. 7 years of commitment issues. 7 years of unhappiness. Okay, well not a full 7 years of unhappiness. That’s unfair to say. Regardless, you know what I mean. Pulling the trigger is the hardest part. But once you’ve done it, mannnnn, you’ll feel good.

This also goes for the smaller things in life that make you happy. For instance, naps. Naps make me VERY happy. Sipping a coffee on weekends with no one disturbing me, makes me happy. Sitting on my balcony in silence while I read, makes me happy. Whatever it is, big or small, that makes you happy, make sure you do it.

Guys, life is too short to live unhappily. Quit that job you hate (but have a plan), leave that toxic relationship (and don’t make the same mistakes again), eat the extra slice of pizza (then take the stairs home) and for the love of God, BUY THE DAMN SHOES. ;) (But maybe sleep on it?) HAHA. I never sleep on it, I just buy them...

You get what I mean, right? So, I’m leaving this quote here for you:

Do What Makes Your Soul Shine. 

Take a minute, or a few minutes to ask yourself if you’re doing what makes your soul shine. Are you happy? Can you be happier? What needs to change?

Also, on another note, can we talk about how cute this dress is? I'm absolutely loving the palm leaves.

Stalk the dress here.

Okay, I'm off. Hope you guys are having an awesome week so far!

Xx, kim

This post was in collaboration with ROMWE. As always, all opinions are my own. 

Photography by Victoria Jmourko.

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